Safety & Consent
🧭 Hard Limits vs. Soft Limits
Limits are the map of what’s okay. The difference between hard and soft limits, how to figure out yours, and how to share them.
Updated July 5, 2026
Your limits are the boundaries of your play — and knowing them is a gift to any partner.
Hard limits
Absolute nos. Things you will not do, full stop, no exceptions. A partner who pushes a hard limit isn’t a partner worth having.
Soft limits
Maybes. Things you’re unsure about, would only try in the right headspace, or with lots of care and trust. Soft limits can shift over time — hard limits usually don’t.
Finding yours
A “yes/no/maybe” list is the classic tool: go through activities and sort them. Then share it during negotiation. And keep your safeword ready as the live override.
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